Mummy mind
Nine months
Baby making
Working mothers
Doting dad

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Raising a child can be tricky business. Is your schedule so packed that you’re not spending enough time with your kid, or are you showering a little too much attention that you might be pampering him? Read on to find out if you’re doing it right.

1 Un-pamper them

Babies are raised like queens. They have been screaming and crying for their lives since they were born, and you have had to answer to them every single time.

Give them a comfortable transition period to settle down. They have to realise that this is “growing up”, and that they can’t just cry anymore when they are hungry, or hurl things around when they get cranky.

2 Earn the right to be heard

Respect works both ways. While being a daddy means being the captain of the house, you don’t always have to be outright stern. All too often, the only time a busy father speaks to his children is when they have done something wrong. This is probably why many children instinctively cringe when their mothers whisk out the famous line: “Your father wants
to talk with you.”

Start talking to your kids when they are young and difficult subjects will naturally be open for discussion when they get older. You’ll be surprised at how your child might actually confide in you

3 Discipline with love

Take time and listen to their ideas and problems, even if their dreams can sound a little too lofty sometimes – they are kids after all. Teach them and slowly bring them out of naivety, but don’t shoot them down so harshly. Let them imagine and hey, innocence is definitely something we want to keep in our children for as long as possible. This is the age of outrageously maturing teens, right?

4 Be what you want them to be

Curiosity peaks in a human being during the toddling years. This is the time when your child copies your every gesture, follows your every move and imitates your every word. Fathers are vital role models to their kids even if they don’t realise it.

With a loving father, girls can grow up knowing that she deserves to be treated with respect by boys, and boys can learn about honesty, humility and responsibility.

5 Stand by Mum

Don’t contradict their mother in front of them. Be kind and respectful to their mother, because how you treat her directly affects their self-esteem, the way they will treat themselves and women when they grow up. It also provides a secure environment for them to belong to. Be kind and respectful and loving of their mother, and remember to always work as a team.

6 Protect them

As a natural male instinct, one of your main roles is to protect your family. That doesn’t mean you literally have to be your child’s bodyguard 24/7 – start from the basics, like childproofing your home. Teach them manners and good habits. There’s also the financial protection too: life insurances, car insurances, emergency fund, etc

7 Be a mother too

Duties that are traditionally considered “for mums only” are not just that anymore. Yes, that means changing diapers, bathing, reading and rocking your little one to sleep in the middle of the night.

Dads should help out as much and as often as they can. In fact, you should be leaping at the chance to do these things, because that’s the perfect time to bond with your child.

8 Treat yourself well

Sure, having a child adds a whole lot more to your already loaded shoulders, but you shouldn’t give up your entire life when you become a dad.

Take good care of yourself! Eat healthy, exercise well – you need to be in tip-top condition to help your kids lead a healthy lifestyle. You want to enjoy those grandchildren someday, don’t you?

9 Full-time dad, part-time playmate

Don’t just stand and watch them from a distance; play with them! Get in the sand, roll in the mud, splash in the water. Heck, have a pillow fight! It doesn’t always have to be strictly father and child, break this norm once in a while and be a friend. It shows your children how their daddy can be fun too.

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